Matthew 19:10-12: 10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.” 11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”
First, it is evident that the disciples did not fully understand the beauty and blessings of marriage. When Jesus told them that marriage was a lifelong commitment and divorce was not an option unless your spouse committed adultery, they then reasoned that it was better not to marry at all. Many in our culture would agree that it is better not to marry. But for most of them, that doesn’t mean that they would not engage in sexual relationships. They want the benefits of marriage without the commitment. How sad! They will never know the blessing and beauty of a man and woman growing old together in a marriage that only gets better every day!
Then Jesus talks about those who choose to live like eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven. Paul explains what Jesus meant in great detail in 1 Corinthians 7. Marriage is a blessing, but you do not have to get married. If you don’t feel the need to get married, Paul says, it’s better to remain single and to commit your life to serving your Savior. Singleness can be a blessing to you as well, if you remain faithful to the Lord.
There was a pastor that I knew who remained single all his life. In two out of the three places that he served, he started a second congregation besides serving his own. He found joy in gardening and shared the fruits of his labors with friends and neighbors. His passion for his Savior and for the work of the kingdom was evident to all. The point is that to whatever God has called you, whether to be married or single, do so to the glory of God!
Prayer: Dear Jesus, remind me every day that life is not about me, myself and I. Give me a passion to serve others, especially those in my family, and to serve you in your kingdom. Amen.