Hebrews 13: 4 Marriage is to be held in honor by all, and the marriage bed is to be kept undefiled, for God will judge sexually immoral people and adulterers. (EHV)
I remember teaching the sixth commandment to teenagers in confirmation class. One of the things they wanted to explore was how far they could go with their date before it was a sin. I guess that’s human nature. We are like cattle that reach across the fence as far as they can to get the grass that’s greener on the other side.
God gives us boundaries for our sexuality, but he doesn’t give us a thousand rules about what we can or cannot do on a date. Draw a circle that represents marriage and put a man and woman in that circle. Sex between a husband and wife is not only permissible, but it is beneficial. It’s honorable. This verse says the marriage bed is undefiled, which means it is not dirty at all. But everything thing OUTSIDE the circle, even our hidden thoughts and desires, is sin.
Our culture is so messed up when it comes to sexuality, and unfortunately, so are we. Sin corrupted our sexuality. The Bible makes that clear in Genesis 3 when it tells us that Adam and Eve were immediately aware of their nakedness and were ashamed, and when Adam put the blame for his sin on Eve. Do we have perfect marriages? No, because we sin. Do we never let our thoughts wander? No, because of sin. Yet, just as God loved Adam and Eve and clothed them, so God has loved us and has clothed us with Jesus’ righteousness. So as much as we struggle to keep the sixth commandment, in the end, God has given us the victory over our sinful natures in Christ.
Prayer: Father, thank you for the blessing of marriage, and for faithful husbands and wives who honor their marriage vows. Yet, forgive us because we are not perfect when it comes to our sexuality. In fact, we must confess that we are sinful, corrupt in our sinful nature. Forgive us for Jesus’ sake, who is our righteousness. Amen.