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13：4 婚姻，人人都当尊重，床也不可污秽，因为苟合行淫的人神必要审判。
我还记得曾经在坚信礼课上为那些十几岁的青少年讲解第六条诫命。他们想探讨的一个话题是，他们和约会对象相处时，到什么样的程度就会被认为是犯罪了。我想这也是人的本性。我们就像是牛，总是想尽可能远的越过护栏，因为我们总觉得护栏另一边的草更绿。
上帝在性关系的方面给我们制定里界限，但对于约会，哪些该做，哪些不该做，上帝并没有制定详细的规则。画个圆圈代表婚姻，然后把男人和女人置于圈内。丈夫和妻子之间的性关系不仅是被允许的，也是有益的。它应该被尊重。这句经文提到（婚）床也不可污秽，意味着婚姻里的性关系并不肮脏。但是超越了婚姻这个圆圈，即便是我们隐而未露的思想和欲望都属于罪。
说到性关系，现在的文化非常糟糕，不幸的是，我们自己也是如此。性关系因为罪而被败坏。在创世纪第3章，圣经明白无误地告诉我们亚当和夏娃立刻意识到自己赤身露体并为此感觉羞耻。亚当还把自己罪归咎给夏娃。我们拥有完美的婚姻吗？不，因为我们有罪。我们的思想从不偏离正道吗？不，因为我们有罪。然而，上帝怎样爱亚当和夏娃并且做衣服给他们穿，他也照样爱我们就给我们穿上耶稣的义。所以尽管我们对于遵守第6条诫命有很多挣扎，但是在基督里上帝赐予里我们胜过罪性的胜利。
祷告：天父，谢谢你对婚姻的祝福，使丈夫和妻子彼此忠心，遵守自己的婚姻誓言。也请天父原谅我们，因为在性关系方面我们并非完美。事实上，我们必须承认自己是有罪的，我们的本性是败坏的。请为了耶稣的缘故赦免我们，他是我们的义。阿们。
Hebrews 13: 4 Marriage is to be held in honor by all, and the marriage bed is to be kept undefiled, for God will judge sexually immoral people and adulterers. (EHV)
I remember teaching the sixth commandment to teenagers in confirmation class. One of the things they wanted to explore was how far they could go with their date before it was a sin. I guess that’s human nature. We are like cattle that reach across the fence as far as they can to get the grass that’s greener on the other side.
God gives us boundaries for our sexuality, but he doesn’t give us a thousand rules about what we can or cannot do on a date. Draw a circle that represents marriage and put a man and woman in that circle. Sex between a husband and wife is not only permissible, but it is beneficial. It’s honorable. This verse says the marriage bed is undefiled, which means it is not dirty at all. But everything thing OUTSIDE the circle, even our hidden thoughts and desires, is sin.
Our culture is so messed up when it comes to sexuality, and unfortunately, so are we. Sin corrupted our sexuality. The Bible makes that clear in Genesis 3 when it tells us that Adam and Eve were immediately aware of their nakedness and were ashamed, and when Adam put the blame for his sin on Eve. Do we have perfect marriages? No, because we sin. Do we never let our thoughts wander? No, because of sin. Yet, just as God loved Adam and Eve and clothed them, so God has loved us and has clothed us with Jesus’ righteousness. So as much as we struggle to keep the sixth commandment, in the end, God has given us the victory over our sinful natures in Christ.
Prayer: Father, thank you for the blessing of marriage, and for faithful husbands and wives who honor their marriage vows. Yet, forgive us because we are not perfect when it comes to our sexuality. In fact, we must confess that we are sinful, corrupt in our sinful nature. Forgive us for Jesus’ sake, who is our righteousness. Amen.