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哥林多前书：7：15-16: 15倘若那不信的人要离去，就由他离去吧！无论是弟兄，是姐妹，遇着这样的事都不必拘束。神召我们原是要我们和睦。16你这作妻子的怎么知道不能救你的丈夫呢？你这作丈夫的怎么知道不能救你的妻子呢？
这里保罗给出的在上帝眼中可以离婚的“另一个”正当理由，故意的离弃另一方。耶稣在马太福音19章给出可以离婚的第一个理由是淫乱。如果一方与其他人发生了性关系，就破坏了了婚姻关系，基督徒配偶就可以提出离婚而不必有良心的负罪感。或者，基督徒也可以选择继续保留这段婚姻。无论什么选择，他们在良心上都是问心无愧的。但无论什么选择，发生这样的事情，都是令人伤心的！
保罗在这里给出了另一个可以离婚的理由。如果不信的那方离开婚姻，或是抛弃了婚姻，那么信主的那方就不再受约束，去维持一段实际已经不存在的婚姻。这样的“离开”不是指长时间在外出差，军人长期在外驻扎，或是生病住院等等情况。以上并不属于故意的离弃，真正的离弃指的是不信的那方决定要放弃婚姻，有时候甚至那个决定放弃婚姻的人，身体上并没有离开家。我曾经为一个弟兄做过辅导，他的妻子把他赶到地下室去住，虽然他妻子没有正式提出离婚，但这就是抛弃婚姻。当然还有很多诸如此类的问题，如果怎样怎样是不是就应当离婚，这样的问题最好还是和牧师或主内的心理辅导人员谈谈。
不幸的是，在当今世界，人们急于结束自己的婚姻，借口是“从这个关系中我什么也得不到。”当人们期待婚姻能满足他们所有的需求，能让他们每天都兴奋得喘不过气来，他们总是会失望的。但如果我将基督放在婚姻的中心，优先考虑我的配偶而不是我自己，这样的婚姻永远会是祝福。并不总是容易，但总是一种祝福。
祷告：主啊我的上帝，是你让亚当和夏娃在伊甸园中相遇并成为一体。请提醒我，是你将我和我的妻子联结在圣洁的婚姻制度里，让我们成为彼此的祝福并一同荣耀你。我如此祈求是奉你的名。阿们。
1 Corinthians 7: 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? (EHV)
This is the “other” reason that Paul gives for a valid divorce in God’s eyes. Jesus said in Matthew 19 that the first reason was adultery. If a spouse has sex with another person, then they have broken the marriage bond and the Christian spouse could divorce them in good conscience. Or, they could also choose to stay with them as well. Their conscience is not bound under those circumstances. Yet, even then, how sad when it happens!
Paul gives another reason. If the unbelieving spouse leaves, or deserts the marriage, the believing spouse is not bound to maintain a marriage that no longer really exists. That “leaving” is not an extended business trip or military deployment or sickness in the hospital. It is a decision by the unbelieving spouse to forsake the marriage. Sometimes that person may not actually leave. I once counseled a man whose wife exiled him to the basement but did not want to get a divorce. That is also deserting a marriage. And there are a lot of “what if” questions as well that are best answered in a conversation with a pastor or Christian counselor.
Unfortunately, in today’s world, people are quick to end their marriages with the excuse, “I’m not getting anything out of this relationship.” When people expect their marriage to meet all their needs and leave them breathless with excitement every day, they will always be disappointed. But if I put Christ at the center of my marriage and my spouse first instead of me, then that marriage will always be a blessing. Not always easy, but always a blessing.
Prayer: Lord God, you brought Adam and Eve together in the garden and made them one. Remind me that you have also joined my wife and I together in his holy institution so that we might be a blessing to each other and glorify you. I ask this in your name. Amen.